When we found out we were pregnant with twins, we were both shocked and delighted, very unaware and naive about what we were in for as first time parents. I wish I had known Mars then. Instead we went the regular hospital route and I gave birth by c-section due to Twin A, Thalia, being breech at 38 weeks. My girls were healthy and good weights, yet we were in hospital for 6 days. These were terrifying days, of doctors, nurses and lots and lots of confusing and contradicting advice. I really wish I had known Mars then. Thalia, my little twin, wasn’t feeding well, but after some weight loss she gained a little and we were allowed home. I was determined to breast feed. But 10 days in, Thalia had lost more weight and we were back in hospital watching a tube be put down her throat. These were dark days. Finally we managed to get her to feed from a bottle, and we were again allowed to leave hospital. For the next few weeks I expressed and bottle fed Thalia while breast feeding Linnea. Linnea was and has ever since been a champion eater making the comparison even more acute and worrying.
My husband realised we needed help. I couldn’t keep doing the rigourous routine of expressing, bottle feeding Thalia, cleaning bottles and breast feeding Linnea round the clock. Through a very fortunate coincidence the first doula we contacted was busy and referred us to Mars, as she was a twin specialist and training to be a lactation consultant. I kept telling myself that Thalia would never feed off the breast, and had resigned myself to feeding them breast milk in this complicated manner until they were three months and then switch them both to formula as I couldn’t face just doing that to Thalia. This thought broke my heart. Enter Mars. She confidently told me that in two weeks Thalia would be feeding off the breast, but I secretly thought she was crazy and that she hadn’t met my Thalia. Sure enough, two weeks in Thalia was feeding off the breast, and gaining lots of weight, to the amazement of the midwives and us. She accurately saw that Thalia was compacted during my pregnancy and had a stiff jaw, she got a wonderful osteopath involved whom gave Thalia weekly massages. She also gave me confidence to keep trying and never give up. She had lots of advice and tricks and didn’t make feel weak for breaking down ALL THE TIME.
She also cooked us dinner, played with the girls and was a lot of fun to hang out with. She even helped us with laundry and little things around the house. I have no idea how I would have survived those first months without her, we often say you can’t put a price on how what she gave us. My girls are now 9 months old and still breast fed. We are also following baby led weaning with great success. And my husband and I are very proud of the fact that we have never bought even one bottle of formula. This is all due to Mars.