I thank my lucky stars every day that we had Mars as our Doula. It was my first pregnancy and I was very excited about the labour (and a little apprehensive of course!) and so we wanted someone there who we trusted to provide the advice and support to really make the most out of the experience. When Mars came over to our house to introduce herself, the minute she left my husband and I knew that we didn’t need to see anyone else, she was exactly the person that we both wanted at the birth. She was warm, extremely knowledgeable, obviously a complete birth and baby fanatic, straight-talking and also good fun. We just felt at ease immediately.
Mars came over another couple of times before the birth to discuss what we were hoping for the labour. It was a privilege to be able to spend hours discussing the birth with someone so experienced, and I think that it really helped me stay totally calm towards the end of my pregnancy, just knowing that whatever happened she would be there. Also, I was able to call Mars up when worries did arise (for example, there were concerns that the baby might be breach at one point) and she was always full of great advice and reassurance, which put me at ease.
My actual labour was quicker than I could have hoped for, so Mars ended up meeting us at the hospital rather than at our house. From the outset it was clear that the midwife had a very different idea of how she wanted our labour to be than we did, so I was very grateful that Mars was there, it was a great comfort to have that back-up. We had a slight emergency situation at the very end of the birth and for us this was the point when having Mars was most valuable. It was all very chaotic but Mars stayed with me, holding my hand and explaining clearly what was going on which saved the day for me, I don’t know what we would have done without her.
Mars told us before the birth that she was your ‘Doula for life’ and we’ve definitely found this to be true. My daughter is almost 9 months old now and I often call Mars up for advice, she always has an answer for everything!